Recipes for Lovemaking                   

Intercourse: The Sexual Union Between two People.                   Playtime

                    Sex: The area of human behavior concerning sexual activity, 

                                                                   Sexual Desires, Instincts and their Expression.

    The old adage that men want a Saint in the kitchen and a vamp in the bedroom, though chauvinistic as it may be, still holds true for "both" people. There are times when soft loving movements just aren't enough. And some of us desire the "Bedroom Acrobats" that tie in with long sessions of intercourse, with "fore-mid-and end-PLAY"! There are those women out there who are not personally satisfied unless they've been involved with their lovers for at least an hour! For it's "not" just trying to achieve the ultimate goal. It's not just a long bout of various foreplay. And it's not just a long session of sex. It's the "whole enchilada"! So many people are missing out on the best parts of lovemaking! Research shows that the average time spent on sex, from beginning to end, for most married couples range between 5 and 10 minutes!  (That's 5 or 10 mind you!). When I heard that I was literally "stunned"! They couldn't possibly know the "joys of sex" and all the variations you can come up with  in 5 or 10 minutes! 

To feel your lover envelope you for long periods of time, are but other ways of connecting to another human being, producing fulfilling increments of joy. For time really does fly when you both are having fun. Best of all it's the one time that can pull you both together after a long and hard day, or even after a long fight. Some of the best sexual encounters have been called "make-up sex". When all other communication has failed, sometimes sex has been the one "selfless" act that has saved marriages...for another year. And then a few more. Until they are both old together, and they wonder where the years have gone.

    Some prefer the magic in the evening, after the kids are tucked away. And remember, if you don't allow yourself "private time" for yourselves, and at a reasonable time in the evening, you will find yourselves eventually resentful, or bitter, or edgy all the time. Worst of all, you might find yourselves at each other's throats. Putting your kids on a good "schedule" and following through with it not only will balance out their little lives and get them some much needed sleep, but give you back your evenings. To be whole and one again. Just like before the kids.

Others prefer sex in the morning, or in the afternoon. Some men experience a higher testosterone level when they wake up. Hence the famous "morning hard-on" has been a term used for hundreds of years. Some couples opt to wait until the morning hours to have the full experience of stamina, energy, and of course the "Full Monty". Which ever you choose, you should take the opportunity each time to get the fullest experience out of it you can. If you don't think of it as "work", you will be more inclined to be receptive and active in the love chamber. Think of it as your "fun time". Be as excited about it as when you were a kid going to an amusement park.

 Just consider it ...a grown-up ride!

The World According to Andy Rooney...

On Morning Differences:

         "Men and women are different in the morning.   Men wake up aroused in the morning.     

                We can't help it. We just wake up and we want you. 

                        And the women are thinking, 'How can he want me the way I look in the 

                                                                                                                        morning?' 

               It's because we can't see you. We have no blood anywhere near our optic nerve."

    From surveys and viewing various talk shows like Oprah on this topic, I have found that there are a few million women out there who don't even like having sex. Sadly, their husbands were in the dark when they first met, for some of them reported that they "pretended" to enjoy sex for several reasons. One being to "catch" him. Others were stuck in the "mommy" hang-ups. One answer was because, "Mommies just don't do things like that!" Which shocked not only the audience and the doctor that was sitting there, but her own husband. He had lost his lover simply because she was a mommy!

I need to touch on some of the reasons for this behavior that I was disappointed in NOT seeing on these shows. The entire media, (talk shows included), are so paranoid in talking about a person's background and so afraid of not being "politically correct" that so much is left off when trying to address these very real problems.

Religious Backgrounds

If you mention the word "religion" everyone shuts down. For I understand there are a vast array of religious beliefs and backgrounds. And it's very hard to pin point different reasons for different behavior patterns, and blame "the church". But in all it's purest efforts, it's the "people" who make up the different rules and regs, whether they are in harmony with their own bible or not. So basically, children who are brought up in a religious home tend to have very different ideas about sexuality and their bodies.

And I would venture to "gamble" a year's wages, (if I were a gambler), that most of these women on these talk shows, (and I'm referring to the "legitimate talk shows"), were raised with very strict rules with different "over-tones" of religious beliefs.

I was there myself.

 In my surveys, of the majority of women who had been raised in a religious background, those women reported that they thought from a very young age that "intercourse" was mainly to take place for creating babies.

 And the majority of them reported that their parents were NOT the ones who gave them their sex talk. It was only through "friends",  were they ever able to find out any detail on all their questions. For most reported that even with the few parents that did divulge some of the "Birds and the Bees" to them... they, (as children), were still left with more questions than when they started.

 When I hear a woman tell national TV that "mommies just don't do that" referring to having SEX with their spouses...their beloved spouses in whom they took sacred VOWS to love, honor and cherish forever, I am telling you that they have a serious linkage problem! Something is awry with their way of thinking in the way they perceive SEX. It seems like they are separating sex from LOVE, (which is a problem for some men by the way), and feel it is "dirty", and therefore, 'any god-fearing "mother" with new children would NEVER partake in that nasty activity!'

This is COMPLETELY stemmed from the "misinterpreted", mythical-biblical, old school way of thinking. The 'Victorian' era (which had one of the greatest impacts in history on human sexuality), mixed with all the various religious taboos in the world has basically driven women into fearful submission of their own accord!

I am a true believer in God, and my savior. But I DO NOT believe that God has handed down all the rules and regulations for 'women' and placed them in a little box for us to stay trapped in! I believe 'human' stupidity and back-woods thinking have evolved this fearful attitude in women and SOME men!

It's the same attitude that keeps women down and men staying in the chauvinistic behavior they can't break!  Not all men.  But LOTS.

 So... I want to reach YOU!  All the mommies out there who are afraid to relax... and SCREAM in waking orgasm!  (See The Big O). You are doing yourself, and all women of the world a great injustice!

Your Rights!       

Women of history and time have worked too hard to enjoy their "right" to sexual freedom without oppression in any form. Women have earned the god-given right to "demand" sex as much as they should be able to say "no". No more are we here just a vessels for mans' pleasure. Our rights for equal pleasure and more have come into it's fullness of time. God had created two people to enjoy sex and lovemaking equally. He created the clitoris to be just as important as the penis. Both serve as the same function in orgasm. Sex was intended from the beginning to be beautiful and pure. To say "it's dirty" to have sex is like telling God He had a big flaw in creation and it's like slapping Him in the face. Only "man" has defaced the original purpose for love-making, and caused it to have dirty twists and perversions. Not God. We are to be 'one' with each other, "One Flesh", and "One Spirit", in the greatest gift He gave any living thing. The privilege and opportunity to become One with the partner you have chosen for life. If you can't see the pure beauty in lovemaking and the tenderness that is truly healing to the soul, that only God could create, then you are truly missing out on the best parts of life!

And if YOU aren't, then your children won't either. For again, ignorance breeds ignorance. Patterns to life cycles never break, until you identify there is a flaw and change the pattern.

  I know I have caused some of you to "think", and I may have even offended a few. But if you continue to keep a closed mind on the things that have been given to us as gifts, that are truly pure and beautiful, how much sadness will this world keep evolving into, from fear and ignorance? Don't you want to be one of those who takes charge of her life and breaks the mold of oppression, and ignorance? Do you not want one of the greatest shots of confidence you could ever do for yourself?

My Challenge to You  

I challenge you to indulge yourself for a time or two. Let yourself go in the moment. Relax and fly with the man of your dreams. Let him take you to new heights and new pleasures you "both" have never shared together. (See Touch  &  Fantasy).

Learn all you can about the "beauty" of making love. And then practice at giving up your will. Release your desires to him, and show him that you truly love and cherish him.

What are your thoughts?

Disclaimer.