Recipes for Lovemaking    

                                                              The Kiss   

        'Kiss'  "to touch or caress with the lips as a sign of greeting, love, etc.  

                                                                    To meet or touch lightly"     

    In the many years I've been around, I'm still amazed at how many people approach me about how their lover isn't interested in kissing them either at all or any more.  Both men and women have asked me at various times if it was "them", or do they "smell" or what? Though I can tell you up front you'd be wise to keep breath mints or sprays handy.  Especially if you smoke.

From the men I hear that women will start out when the relationship is very new with letting them kiss, but after a while they start turning their faces. When I ask them just what it was they were doing, they just say, "kissing"!  I then start out on a journey of questions to find out just what their 'version' of kissing might be.  

I hear all sorts of responses.  The most "probing" answer (no pun) would be the 'Quick-N-Friendly DART'.  Yes, for some strange reason "some" men seem to think we all want them to probe for our missing tonsils right from the start.  They think it's the "thing" that turns us ON.  Even in public.   

I then begin to elevate their minds into the sensualness of a woman.  And give them tips on how to keep them coming back for more.  I begin to have them focus on the 'total woman'.  Not her mouth, her breasts or legs.  But the woman inside.    

It's so easy to reach her essence if he would only concentrate on her mind and her spirit.  Whether in a new relationship, or one that has been working hard to stay together for 30 years, all any man has to do is stare into her eyes (which captures her soul), and gently approach her almost nose to nose.  Yet never touching her.  Take her breath into your nostrils, and feel her spirit around you.  She would melt in seconds, if he would only try this for a few minutes.  This is why women love dancing so much.  It's the one moment in their life that they can be caressed, nuzzled, and enveloped by their lovers without thinking about anything else. That is on another page.  (See Dance).

Then at some point when he's felt her submission and weakness to him, he could ever so gently "brush" his lips barely on hers.  And stay there as he breathes in her essence again. There is no way she will turn from him at this point.  The next level of his kisses are purely in stages and up to both of them.  This can be the time that will make or break the moment.  

There are the "gentle and soft pecks", as they nuzzle their faces gently together.  There are the "lip feelers", that will take women to new heights of eroticism.  Wrapping your lips gently around each others to feel the various sizes, and thicknesses, with ever slight sucking.  Mind you that almost all of this so far has been mostly "dry".

  Women are passionate animals.  And we must feel our passions rise at different levels of our lovemaking.  If men aren't equipped to take you to these levels, then it's "your" responsibility to teach them what you want.  Take them to the first steps I've out-lined here yourself.  If you are rusty at it, or embarrassed because you have pretty much 'given up' from all the years of lack of sensuality, remember it's never too late to start again.  You might even give your lover a kick start.  Catch him when he least expects.  Let him know that a "sensual kiss" can be a reward for all of his sweetness too.  It can be as important as anything else he wants from you once or twice a week!  These are freely and spontaneously given.  You may even spark a new sense of creativity in him.  Just like maybe when you first met.  

Personally, I find myself enjoying a good tongue in the heat of the moment.  I have given myself to him completely, and maybe 45 minutes later, my passions have risen to a level of almost ritualistic lust.  There is so much heat and heavy breathing that I lose myself totally into him, and we are truly one flesh.  That's when I can enjoy the deepest kiss as we explode together in perfect union.  

*A French kiss in France is called an English kiss!

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